Knowing what you’re worth
Posting has been minimal and I’m actually contemplating taking a hiatus from Tumblr because I’ve had nothing to say. But know, if I do take a hiatus from Tumblr I’ll still be pressing on with my fitness stuff.
Here’s an update on the past couple weeks
- Pulled 140 x 8 Deadlift and Benched 115 x1
- Changed my macros, but only slightly (increased fat by 10 g, decreased protein by less than 10 grams, carbs are about the same)
- Made a commitment to a minimum of 20 minutes of cardio, no less than 3 days a week (In addition to 6 lifting days)
- I’ve also made a decision to make a full 6 month commitment to putting on some serious muscle starting in September.
- Found my daughter a solid play therapist that is able to work with 5 year olds, we will be working on self-soothing methods for her Anxiety/OCD.
- Yes, my 5 year old has anxiety/OCD . The anxiety is more of a social anxiety and her OCD comes from her trying to make herself feel secure. It’s a learning process and gets frustrating. But let me tell you, she has the cleanest room/bathroom of any 5 year old that I’ve ever met. (lol, gotta make light of the situation)
- Received an unexpected job offer from a guy Adrian plays basketball with, so I’ve been mulling over that a lot. I’ve been working for my current company for 7 years and I have so much freedom with my schedule (not to mention tuition benefits) that it would take a substantial salary increase for me to leave.
Which leads me to the title of my post ….
I’m 26 years old and this is the first time I’ve been asked to present my “salary requirements”, so I feel like an actual adult now, Lol. That is the kind of position I have wanted to find myself in for a couple years now. However, when the opportunity finally arrives I feel as though I’ve lowballed myself. I’ve had a salary number in mind for a couple years now and when I have the opportunity to ask for that salary, I throw out a number that is $2K less just because I’m “not sure that I’m worth” the number I want.
I can tell myself ALL DAY how much I think I’m worth, but when it’s time for me to tell others, I feel the need to be more modest. And I don’t understand why I do that. I work hard in every aspect of my life yet I seem to downplay everything when talking to others. I’ve worked for the same company for 7 years, I’m the youngest person in my entire department, I have a Bachelor’s degree and I’m working on my Master’s degree. Not to mention that I take care of my family and make the time for my own health and fitness.
Those around me are always asking “How do you do it?” How do I go to school, have a full time job, take care of my family, and still have time for the gym? In reality, it’s endless planning. There is not a day that goes by that I’m not planning what is going on in the next day, week, month, etc. But when I talk to people I just say “Oh I don’t know, it’s not that big of a deal, can do it.” And in all honesty, I do feel like everyone can accomplish these things. Maybe that’s why I feel like it’s not that big of a deal.
I’m kind of rambling now, but the bottom line is… ALWAYS KNOW WHAT YOU’RE WORTH. Don’t ever sell yourself short … You’re only as good as you allow yourself to believe. So if you hold yourself in high regard, hold onto that and run with it. Don’t try and give come up with explanations as to why what you do is just “normal”. Because if you work hard and put everything you have into what you do, then you are far from average.